"This above all: to thine own self be true,
And it must follow, as the night the day,
Thou canst not then be false to any man."
--From Hamlet by William Shakespeare
My life is rewarding on a daily basis, not only in terms of making money in my art, but also spiritually in terms of the joy of living my purpose and doing what I'm best suited for in this world.
But it wasn't always that way.
Ten years ago, I didn't know what my next step was gonna be. At the time, I was living in complete misery, having chosen to go to a college I didn't want to be at on the other side of the country for reasons that had nothing to do with what I really wanted. I was worn-out by school studies that, while enriching, were endlessly challenging at best and soul-numbingly exhausting at worst. I essentially had no fulfilling social life, although I interacted with a lot of people. This was because I had anxiety issues and all kinds of crazy worries that made it harder for me to be with people while experiencing any real confidence or enjoyment. I was in my head all the time and did not talk to anybody else about what was really going on for me, so I had a distorted perspective on life and on myself. To be perfectly honest, my level of unhappiness was so extreme that I know why people commit suicide. If I didn't believe I was put on Earth for more than just suffering through life, perhaps I would have.
Eventually, this charade got unbearable, and finally, in the Spring of 2000, I dropped out of school in the East Coast, where I was going at the time, and returned back to the Bay to regroup and, honestly, to recuperate. I had experienced my own personal rock bottom, and though I was intensely depressed and found it hard to enjoy anything at all on a daily basis, I was determined to make things better. The following year, I applied to and got accepted at University of California, Berkeley, where I enrolled in the fall of 2001. Two years later, I graduated from UC Berkeley with honors and a music degree.
Fast forward to now. My life this week alone reflects a completely transformed reality from what it was ten years ago: I have rehearsed with a classically trained singer for an all-classical recital we have next week; performed my own style of hip hop piano music for a public audience; created and performed an original play for a family get together; attended a video release party for a R&B song that is currently on the radio; and performed piano shows at two different Alzheimer's/dementia care centers, one health care center, and one retirement home.
And by now, this is nothing new! Doing awesome things is just my life. I've written original scenes for a teen opera program, and watched my idea fully realized on stage with a full cast two years in a row. I've co-produced a hip hop track that featured an artist who worked with Tupac. I've been to Canada for a songwriting retreat and Los Angeles to see the Grammys. I've received music business mentoring with an music industry expert who worked with the likes of Madonna and George Winston. Recently I've begun working with an image consultant who was once Beyonce to Usher's agent. I worked for nearly two years with an opera singer who personally worked with Aaron Copland and who performed at opera houses in Europe for decades. And in the past year, I've performed nearly one hundred and fifty piano shows for the elderly.
These experiences have demonstrated to me that fulfillment doesn't happen by accident. It comes from choosing what is true. It comes from connecting with what is real inside of you and honoring that always. And although, sometimes it takes going in the complete opposite direction to realize what is not working, once you do find your truth and life from that place, life makes a whole lot more sense, and it becomes a lot more fun.
I know because I've been there.
Best,
Chris
The general blog of eclectic music artist Chris Goslow, covering topics including creativity, living life well, movies, music, and more. To learn more about my purely musical side, including my music blog, visit www.chrisgoslow.com.
Tuesday, July 27, 2010
Wednesday, July 14, 2010
Riches From Within
"Attuned to the music it's truly like praying
it keeps me grounded, I'm astounded..."
--From my song "Here Upon the Keys"
In my young music career, I can't exactly say that I've earned a ton of money so far. There are plenty of other people who have earned more. Yet what I do for a living, and the plans I have at work, are so rich, and give me so much back, that I feel as if I am truly rich. In fact, I feel as if I am one of the lucky people on this planet who is blessed to do something he loves doing.
Today I played a piano show at an Alzheimer's center near where I live. The occasion was a family day where the family of the residents came in and visited with their family member. I hadn't met all of these visitors, but I was quite familiar with the residents they came to visit. That is because I have performed weekly at this particular care center for nearly a year (the first performance i gave there was on July 22nd of last year). This is in fact the first elder care center where I performed (and I have given nearly 150 performances at retirement homes and Alzheimer's centers all over the Bay Area since then). Also, since my grandmother had Alzheimer's before she died, this type of center is important to me personally. I have sort of adopted it is my home base (which is also pretty easy because i live five minutes away from it!).
Playing this show filled me up in ways that go beyond making money (although I was also paid), and lots of great memories fill my mind with satisfaction right now as I think about it. For example, the delighted attention of the audience (residents, family members, and staff) as I improvised a boogie woogie. The pleasure of having one visitor say how lucky she felt that she could sit up and close and listen without having to pay for it. The sweetness of playing a mellow song while one of the staff members danced with a resident. The joy of dressing up in a tux for a crowd that feels complimented to even be considered worthy of dressing up in a tux for. Oh yeah. And the sense that I was serving a purpose greater than myself, a purpose that I was born to fulfill, by giving of my talents to this exceptional group of people who are too often overlooked by the rest of society.
This richness fills me, fuels me, and satisfies me. And I believe it is the basis for me to create the prosperity that I desire. Because I believe true prosperity comes from aligning me using my best talents and strongest passions in service to the world. And when I do that, I feel freaking rich! And the money follows!
This is truly a beautiful thing.
Best,
Chris
it keeps me grounded, I'm astounded..."
--From my song "Here Upon the Keys"
In my young music career, I can't exactly say that I've earned a ton of money so far. There are plenty of other people who have earned more. Yet what I do for a living, and the plans I have at work, are so rich, and give me so much back, that I feel as if I am truly rich. In fact, I feel as if I am one of the lucky people on this planet who is blessed to do something he loves doing.
Today I played a piano show at an Alzheimer's center near where I live. The occasion was a family day where the family of the residents came in and visited with their family member. I hadn't met all of these visitors, but I was quite familiar with the residents they came to visit. That is because I have performed weekly at this particular care center for nearly a year (the first performance i gave there was on July 22nd of last year). This is in fact the first elder care center where I performed (and I have given nearly 150 performances at retirement homes and Alzheimer's centers all over the Bay Area since then). Also, since my grandmother had Alzheimer's before she died, this type of center is important to me personally. I have sort of adopted it is my home base (which is also pretty easy because i live five minutes away from it!).
Playing this show filled me up in ways that go beyond making money (although I was also paid), and lots of great memories fill my mind with satisfaction right now as I think about it. For example, the delighted attention of the audience (residents, family members, and staff) as I improvised a boogie woogie. The pleasure of having one visitor say how lucky she felt that she could sit up and close and listen without having to pay for it. The sweetness of playing a mellow song while one of the staff members danced with a resident. The joy of dressing up in a tux for a crowd that feels complimented to even be considered worthy of dressing up in a tux for. Oh yeah. And the sense that I was serving a purpose greater than myself, a purpose that I was born to fulfill, by giving of my talents to this exceptional group of people who are too often overlooked by the rest of society.
This richness fills me, fuels me, and satisfies me. And I believe it is the basis for me to create the prosperity that I desire. Because I believe true prosperity comes from aligning me using my best talents and strongest passions in service to the world. And when I do that, I feel freaking rich! And the money follows!
This is truly a beautiful thing.
Best,
Chris
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